Lately, God has laid on my heart to check in with my kid’s hearts. Today, I took each of my older four children aside and went for a walk: one-on-one.
We set out, my oldest and I, and I asked some simple questions: “What’s going on in your heart lately? Anything on your mind? What has God been doing in your life?” She talked a bit, I listened. Then I talked a whole lot and she listened. That’s sort of how we roll. I’m a talker. She’s an introvert and listener. It was sweet. Her heart is golden.
We got back to the house and I asked the next in line to walk. We got outside and I said, “So, what’s God been doing in your life these days?” He looked at me and said, “Wow! This is so cool. I’ve been looking for a time to share with you some things I feel God is doing.” We walked and he talked. And it was amazing, because we were seeing answers to prayer together in ways that astounded us both.
My next son was eager to get out to the door when I returned. “What did you talk about with the older kids?” I laughed and told him how cool it is that we have similar temperaments and how we are both third born in the family. We discussed his gifts, and wondered what God might have in store for all of the unique ways he has been gifted. He doesn’t care for history, though the rest of the family loves it. So we talked about all the reasons it’s good to study it. We smiled, laughed, and he prayed for me when I felt like a migraine was coming on. He had recently shared some things going on in his heart so we checked in on that and shared our thankfulness for all that God was doing in his life.
Number four was anxious to get alone with Mom and see what this was all about. She initiated questions with me, and we talked about our dream home floor plan, setting, and decor. We began to get to heart issues and she readily shared some struggles, how she is wanting to grow, and asked for advice on how to deal with a few things. She prayed together and she asked for some accountability and to check in on how she is doing at a later date.
Little Cinca would have loved to go for a walk too, but at this point, my feet were a little raw from having worn flip flops and my headache was returning…so we sat together and read a silly book instead.
I’ve decided that my goal this school year is to do weekly check-ins with my kid’s hearts. I’m going to log in some time praying over this and our time together. Each precious child will get one day each week for a 15-30 minute heart check. We can pray, follow up on how things are going and share with each other in ways that aren’t practical for group sharing. These kids are getting big and there is so much going on in each of them in their unique life stages. I’m so thankful God is leading us to connect in this way right now. I need it as much as they do.
Do you do anything special to connect with your kid’s hearts? I would love to hear about it!
I hope you all check in with me too to see how this idea is going this year!